Today on Financial Fluency I am pleased to have Linda Ugelow on the show. Linda is a Visibility and Confidence coach with a Master’s degree in Expressive Therapy who helps people clear the visibility blocks that keep them from moving forward.
Linda shares how when you are able to identify these impacting influences and clear them away, suddenly you have so much more energy and confidence. This then makes putting yourself out there a peak experience and you can thrive in the connecting instead of wishing for the moment to end. Linda herself has been a performer for 35 years as a dancer, and although she is comfortable dancing in front of others, she was not at all comfortable speaking on stage and would avoid it at all costs. It took a process for her to feel confident enough to introduce herself on stage, and now brings her knowledge to others.
Our conversation explores how historically women have not been very well prepared to deal with wealth, and it was men who took the financial reins most of the time, even when it was the woman who had the money to begin with - it’s just the way things were done. With more and more wealth coming into women’s lives through various mediums, be it self-generated, inherited or as a settlement, women are having to learn how to manage having wealth and the visibility that it inevitably brings about. Fear of losing the money, guilt of having more than others, fear of being judged, or not fitting in with their peers is a reality for many women who have wealth.
Prior to starting her online business, Linda she was an organic farmer, growing specialty vegetables for local restaurants which fit her introverted personality. Inspired by business coaches like Marie Forleo, she began applying all of the concepts of niche marketing to obtain raving fans to her own business. She soon came to the realization that she herself wanted to help others grow, and that was what she was meant to do.
Today accessibility to online business tools is easier than ever, and it is allowing for more women to start up businesses with little capital investment. When she started her business about 1 ½ years ago, Linda was bootstrapping it, and she was very proud of that. She felt as though walking the walk was more credible in her quest to help others create their future with little monetary investment. When her mother passed, she inherited some money, and found herself in a position to be able to to invest in her business. This created a struggle within herself as she felt that she was somehow cheating, and had to do a lot of money block clearing.
We also discuss the impact an inheritance has on our children, and how having the conversations beforehand can really make a difference in their success. Also, avoiding having strings or conditions for obtaining the inheritance can establish a healthier attitude towards money in general in our children, and empower them to make the best possible decisions for themselves.
Linda shares her message here:
Many entrepreneurs and business women feel uncomfortable speaking publicly on camera or live on stage. This impacts the opportunities that they have available to them to get in front of their audience to get known and to share their knowledge. The fear itself is what is so uncomfortable and it feels impenetrable. However, It's really more like layers of veils comprised of impacting past experiences, limiting self and cultural beliefs, your own thinking process.
My process and suggestions are to:
1) Release these past impacting memories, beliefs and practices;
2) Restore your sense of safety being seen and heard;
3) Expand your capacity to hold more feelings of confidence, relaxation, gratitude;
4) Rehearse for refined communication;
5) Relay your message with your new radiant presence.
Getting on camera or stage doesn't have to be dreaded. It can, in fact, be a peak experience and one that you look forward to expand your sense of being.
The guilt with inheriting money does seem to fall heavier on women from my observations. ~Jen Turrell
I feel that in terms of passing on a nest egg to our children is more about us helping them identify what they feel a life worth living is about, and identify ways that they feel compelled to make a difference in the world. ~ Linda Ugelow